Pet hate of mine. And I'm a guy.
I decided to make her a little more modest. So, I stuck an abaya over her legs.
"From whistling to catcalling, and even groping, street harassment is an everyday reality for many women around the world."
This isn't exclusive to just men. Some think women it's okay to do the same. Picture the scene: Caucasian girls drive by, roll down their windows and say they would to like to inappropriate things to me. A brown guy. I laughed. I couldn't keep a straight face. My daily musings keep me amused.
Full Article: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-12771938
When I was pursuing potential #6, she told me how bearded brothers would say masha'Allah to her face whilst walking past. Mentioning the name of Allah makes it totally halaal. Should I witness that, the grip around their beards would turn white. Shame.
Thoughts, experiences, funnies to share?
My thoughts:
"O Prophet! Enjoin your wives, your daughters, and the wives of true believers that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad). That is most convenient, that they may be distinguished and not be harassed. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." [Qur’an 33:59]
Ahh I remember the school/college days. Walking along quite happily minding your own business, planning your evening 'ok get home, eat, coursework, badminton' and then BAM! A middle aged man is rolling down his van window, makes a disgustingly inappropriate remark, smirks and drives off. Meanwhile it takes me time to register what he's just said. Disgust sends shivers down my spine. Then anger kicks in. 'Hey, how come i'm the one left standing here feeling like an idiot and you get to drive off with a smirk on your face! Ughh I feel sick now...ahhh man and i was looking forward to eating my food.' Not happy.
ReplyDeleteAt least this harassment did not happen on a regular basis but for some women it does. Now some may say that if a woman is going to dress/act in an overly provocative way then it is inevitable that she receives such attention. However in my opinion the majority of women out there do not dress/act inappropriately, we are not secretly yearning for some creep to yell out 'oi oi sexy' as we walk past, we just want to get on with out daily lives - uni, work, grocery shopping, dropping the kids off to school. There are many stories that us women could tell you, i'm sure that some may sound so ridiculous that you can't help but laugh, but the underlying problem is not funny at all. What happened to common decency, forget about being religious or not, what happened to basic manners?
Howling, hissing and barking are things that animals do.
ReplyDeleteNuff said.
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I agree with Jasmine- well said!
ReplyDeleteits bad enough have animalistic tendencies but to voice them or make them known as well?!!
Hijabi women suffer at the hands of cheap Muslim men! Saying "Salaam alaikum" in a How you doin' style and "SubhanAllah" in a whistling tone.
ReplyDeleteSigh.
I give them the benefit of the doubt and think they're doing Dhikr. 0:)
Oh i remember one more. In Medinah, just 5 mins away from the Roza of RasulAllah (of all places!) some adolescent jackasses young enough to be my baby brothers cruise around in their open jeeps. See us walking towards our hotel and point at us and sing something in Arabic. Thank god i didn't know what they were saying. Then one guy just desperately starts kissing his window!! I mean, ewwww!!
ReplyDeleteGod, i just got that visual in my head.
Lovely post! Made me laugh!
ReplyDeleteIt's true though. Some men really think that saying words like 'subhan'Allah' and Masha'Allah makes it right for them to check out random na-mahram girls!
Assalamualaikum wr wb.
ReplyDeleteScary i would say to use Allah's Name to do something outrite haraam!
Splendid - Haha I like that! Benefit of the doubt and all that ^_^
ReplyDeleteThat sickens me. I heard about some disturbing things of things men have done whilst women do tawaaf!
Yours Truly - Glad it made you laugh.. hey why not if it's all masked behind good words? lol
You never deny that when ever Women walk down the street and been harassed and such things are happening all the time. Whenever these happens to any female, she feel really angry, intimidated & embarrassed, and afraid. Sometimes it's one man, but other times it's many as in plural, in a group they do disrespectful attempts.
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ReplyDeleteI started wearing the hijab late. I didn't want to be stared at and feel conscious so I asked a hijabi friend to walk down the street with me for my first trial run. A car slows down and an Arab guy says something to me but we keep walking. I ask my Arab friend what he was saying. Apparently he asked me for my number. That made me laugh.
ReplyDeleteIn a more recent incident, I was taking pictures when caught a glimpse of a guy blowing kisses at me. =/ That was seriously creepy. Especially since there was no one else around. I decided to get away from there.