My parents surprisingly took the initiative to help towards the cause.
The parents went for the initial meet and they said she was extremely impressive. Good marriage material.
They told me about the girl and the family and it all looked promising.
So, we arranged a date and we went to see the family. Initial impressions, the parents were extremely quiet and as the conversation progressed it seems they've lived an extremely sheltered life and imposed that lifestyle on their daughters.
The conversation progressed and a revelation was then made, the girl wasn't even aware of the marriage. Okay . . They continued and told me she would obey everything I say or do. I sit, she sits - Great . . a doormat!
I couldn't talk to her because her father thinks that daughters who speak to their potential husbands in front of their mahram are the bad girls. This comment threw me off.
Another day passed. Another experience gained.
And so it continues . .