Thursday, 3 September 2009

Seeking Marriage - Part 1

So here we are . . confused, frustrated, losing hope. Hoping that the marriage candidate will somehow be sent through divine intervention.

Allah (swt) teaches us how we should seek our provisions from rizq to marriage.

We know that everything is ultimately from the creator. Whatever is fixed is fixed.

You may be thinking "If Allah predestined our marriage, then why are we burdening ourselves and getting overly stressed in finding the 'right wife'?"

Good question.

Allah has predestined a number of things for insaan (mankind). Be it wealth, marriage even life itself. These things are unknown to us.

Ibn Mas’ud narrated that Allah’s Messenger (saw) said to his wife Umm Habiba: “Verily you have asked Allah about the duration of life already set, and the steps you would take, and the sustenance the share of which is fixed. Nothing will take place before its due time, and nothing will be deferred beyond when it is due.” [Muslim]

This concept is from the Islamic aqeedah (belief). We believe in this idea because it's in the glorious Qur'an and explained in the Sunnah.

Therefore it's quite simple to understand that Allah has given us a domain of control. You choose your own thoughts and actions. There's also a domain which we don't control, that of which is beyond the remit of man - Weather, Earthquakes etc . . all of which Allah is the master of.

Geetar Hiro's posted a wonderful post . . The Prophet (saw) advised a man, “Tie the camel and trust in Allah”.

Simply put . . We have to actively go out and seek marriage. Through all halal means Allah has provided us with.

Pray and place your trust in Allah. At the same time work hard . . to ensure to find a partner who is suitable for you.

Allah created believing men and women for each other.

"Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure, and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity" [Qur’an 24:26]

Part 2 to follow with some practical tips on seeking marriage.

Part 2


  1. Oh what is this, another quest on the blogosphere and I don't know, tsk tsk. Assalamu alaikum brother!! Nice to meet you and email me at -- I've got a question for you.


  2. Assalamu alaikum and Ramadan Mubarak, this is a great idea to have a blog looking for a marriage partner. InshaAllah you can find your princess :)
    InshaAllah I will start a blog also about finding husband, but I believe it is best to look in real life, not on Internet.

    1. where are you supposed to look in real life if you don't socialize much!! or have many friends. Also a decent man isnt going to approach you when you are out with your sister/friends having dinner, shopping etc!!!

  3. Assalamualaikum and Ramadan Mubarak. I just wanted to stop by and say Masha'Allah I love your blog!

  4. Anon/Hijaabified - Salam and Ramadhan Kareem. Thank you both for stopping by and leaving positive comments :)

    I agree life is the way to go forward. The net is just a means to make an initial meet. although not my means of preference.

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