Lets talk Parents & Marriage

Parental intervention is unavoidable. Especially when it comes to marriage.

I discussed various issues with my parents and they seem to change their mind regularly.

How so?

When I initially discussed with my parents they said understandably that it's a decision I would have to live with rest of my life with. My mother said she would be happy with any decision I make because my criteria is Islam and I'm apparently the most intelligent young man.

Now whilst the hunt is on, my parents can't help themselves but change the 'criteria' completely. She must be a Pakistani, who is from a specific village within a specific caste . . oh and a title would also be nice.

Ermm, hello?

After discussing with them, it's there to safe guard me and keep the family within the 'village from back home'.

Rubbish. I quite easily got the answer from my mother . . you see; pakistani women like to gossip a lot. She said she can't handle the way women back bite and trash talk people.

Now it's somewhat understandable. For me it's as simple as staying away from such people but living in a community where you're seen as 'the respectable family' it spirals into a world of ridiculous, petty talk. Haven't these people got nothing better to do? Clearly not.

I'll talk them around, wisdom shall persevere Inshallah!

Have you encountered similar?

How would you deal with your folks?