Saturday, 5 January 2013

To My Dear Brothers In This Struggle

You know when you're in University and you see them beatufiul women and you cannot look at them. They come up to you and ask you "Hey, did receive that email last nights regarding homework?" you must look down and keep it short.

You go for coffee at Lunch and the waitress smiles at you, you remember to lower your gaze again.

Whenever you go into a lift, you cannot make small talk. If there's a beautiful women you decide to give it a miss for the next one. 

At your work place, your colleague always comes to you, she even flirts with. You keep your distance even though nobody will find out. You seem socially awkward although you're socially awesome and funny.

When you're invited out by peers or colleagues, you don't give into pressure because Sarah or Lucy approach you and tell you "Aisha'a Muslim and she's going, she even wears a headscarf!" you still decline.

When you go to Islamic Society and see sisters with hijaab, you find them even more beautiful, a huge fitna but "naa man I cannot look, astaghfirullah... nah man I cannot look! Allah has promised me he has better plans for me. Why is this killing me so much? Oh Allah you've promise, you've promised, you've promised! I'm not gonna look." 

Our religion is so heavy on shame, more than any religion and the interactions between opposite genders and it puts so much restriction on men more than any other way of life. Young men living in this society is fire and fuel. Butter left on a hot day, and you're expecting it not not to melt.

By Allah, I feel your pain. More than any other pain. And the only thing you're left to say is that "Allah has better for me."

In a society where marriage is immensely difficult. You still keep your shame, you still keep your gaze low even though you're surrounded by shamelessness.

If you keep Allah's promise, you guard your eyes, you don't make small talk, you don't go on filthy sites and you don't flirt and you guard yourself, you guard yourself and you guard yourself. Allah has your back bruv'. Believe.

هَلۡ جَزَآءُ ٱلۡإِحۡسَـٰنِ إِلَّا ٱلۡإِحۡسَـٰنُ
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If you did excellence for Allah in this world why wouldn't he do excellence for you in the hereafter?

Allah's know's of that fire raging inside of you. All them whispers and opportunity of Zina, Allah knows it all. Allah knows of all them sleepless nights, every single night that you woke up because of your uncontrollable instincts that you've held back.

You controlled yourself, so go ahead have everything you fantasized about. Everything you held yourself back for, have it. Allah is going to compensate you, heavily. With a return far greater than you ever expected.

I feel you man, I feel you but hear me out. We're going to get through this.

1 comment:

  1. This is an issue for sisters too, but for some reason it's usually not addressed. MuslimMatters recently started posting about this topic as it relates to Muslim women, so that's helpful.
    Still good to read about this, didn't realize how bad it can be for brothers. I was especially surprised when you mentioned that hijabi sisters can seem even more attractive in a Muslim crowd.
    Keep writing! :)