I met up with a friend and we went to a big, independent, homely coffee shop.
When I walked inside I couldn't help but notice this sister. That one glance had caught my eye and that was it, I didn't need to look again. An hour later she got up and left with her friend.
Whilst talking to my friend, I excused myself for a minute and I was about to do something never done before. I stepped outside the coffee shop and I looked around to see which direction she went. I then saw her a hundred yards down the road to the right. I jogged up to her pace, she turned around and it went something like this:
"Assalamu Alaikum, apologies for approaching you in this fashion and I know this is going to sound bizarre but are you married/looking for marriage?"
Her reaction was priceless. She need some time to collect herself.
"I'm so sorry but this is quite overwhelming. Give me a second, I'm flattered ( ... ) I was looking for marriage and... I guess I still am?" she said.
She then looked at her friend for some reassurance, she got the thumbs up.
"Sorry to drop it on you like this. ( ... ) Can I contact someone who is responsible for you?"
I jogged back to the coffee shop. I had no idea why I was jogging but I was jogging. I sat down and my friend asked me "where did you go?"
"I can't believe I just did that" I said under my breath. I was looking at her father's mobile number on my phone.
When I walked inside I couldn't help but notice this sister. That one glance had caught my eye and that was it, I didn't need to look again. An hour later she got up and left with her friend.
Whilst talking to my friend, I excused myself for a minute and I was about to do something never done before. I stepped outside the coffee shop and I looked around to see which direction she went. I then saw her a hundred yards down the road to the right. I jogged up to her pace, she turned around and it went something like this:
"Assalamu Alaikum, apologies for approaching you in this fashion and I know this is going to sound bizarre but are you married/looking for marriage?"
Her reaction was priceless. She need some time to collect herself.
"I'm so sorry but this is quite overwhelming. Give me a second, I'm flattered ( ... ) I was looking for marriage and... I guess I still am?" she said.
She then looked at her friend for some reassurance, she got the thumbs up.
"Sorry to drop it on you like this. ( ... ) Can I contact someone who is responsible for you?"
I jogged back to the coffee shop. I had no idea why I was jogging but I was jogging. I sat down and my friend asked me "where did you go?"
"I can't believe I just did that" I said under my breath. I was looking at her father's mobile number on my phone.
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ReplyDeletePersonally, if the brother wasn't leery and hadn't been checking me out previously, then I'd be completely flattered.
ReplyDeleteMay Allah make it easy for you. Ameen.
So you're judging her based on her physical attractiveness, or...?
ReplyDeleteJudging? No.
ReplyDeleteAttracted? Yes.
2 very different things.
You often inspire me, bro...that was an awesome thing to do, and one that really shows the trust you have in Allah. KNowing that you have nothing to lose, and that if it's meant to be it'll happen - i'm really hoping your quest is going to reach a beautiful conclusion soon :) (though you'll still need to keep writing here ok?)
ReplyDeleteInsha'Allah, I must! And Jazakallah Khair for your kind words.
DeleteGoing straight for the wali is about tawakkul as you're not left with a great deal to go upon other than establishing a persons demeanour.
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Good job, a lot more brothers need to do this!
ReplyDeleteShoot,you stole my thunder,that is if I were a man,I'd do exactly as you,but alas my hands are tied and I can't do it.So all I can say is that you are indeed fabulous and you will be forever happily married.
ReplyDeleteThere's always the question of why me I guess - Is he desperate and approaching every other girl? What is it about me that is so alluring that a random stranger would react that way? Should I start wearing a niqab? (OK, I'm just kidding about the latter one I think?). I mostly agree with Redhum. It's not that bad if you weren't "totally" checking her out. I don't think you'd approach a person you didn't find at least a little bit attractive though. And also it's a good thing you didn't just spring on her without even asking if she was interested ("Yo, so what's your father's number?").
ReplyDeleteYou are indeed a brave person for doing that though.
Can't wait to read what happens next insha'allah.
And what's wrong with springing on her,may I ask Anonymous,plaese?You must admit that at least it's an original approuch and not that tried and trusted of a formula.That's the kind of a approuch I'd really appreciate myself as it's new,fresh and excting.
ReplyDeleteWell, as I understand it he didn't "spring" on her. He took some time to introduce himself and his intentions.
DeleteBear with me Kitty, I have no experience whatsoever with what women like. I just thought I'd add my two cents.
I agree with redhum (ameen to the dua by the way). Sometimes things happen in a weird way, and it's just meant to be. Sometimes, we're attracted to someone, and it's a matter of the souls. Whatever happens, it was a brave thing to do, and every experience in life enriches you as a person! InshaAllah, all the waiting and searching will be worth it
ReplyDeleteI agree A Muslim we should follow our instict when we are attracted to a person in a big way and not let an opportunity pass us by, another one might never come that can top the attraction because after all God brings a woman to a man and he gets to choose what to do,it could be God moving behind the scene bringing on that strong attraction.And also,yes I stronly believe that no matter how painful our past has been,God planned it that way for a reason.A very difficul situation we have suffered, God allows for us to experience to teach it to help others suffering with the same situation we have suffered.After all,it's life itself that is the best University on earth.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comment Kitty.
DeleteAnd I agree. Reminds of a line from 8 Mile that goes something like "If you have, one moment, one opportunity - Would you capture it or just let it slip?"
As Muslims we believe that things do happen for a reason, sometimes beyond our understanding.
Wow as an actress I love that line,how thought provoking it is,I could just get carried away thinking about it slipping away from me and the man God brought me to with it,but I believe that if I prayed God in all His mercy would give me a second chance with him and romance.And yes indeed no matter how painful our lives have been as I read Romans 8:28 they were meant to happen for us to then help other people that suffer the same.What does the Koran say about this situation please?
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