tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post353883187153556919..comments2023-12-22T08:38:20.596+00:00Comments on Marriage & Islam: The Search Is On . .: In Praise Of Traditional WomenSoulSeekhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17159283661469135108noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-64558835940782235382012-06-13T22:11:16.004+01:002012-06-13T22:11:16.004+01:00I have just come across your blog. I am a white B...I have just come across your blog. I am a white British bornMuslim who is married to a Pakistani. I don't know how tonuge-in-cheek your posting of this was. All I can say is that if you want a passive wife - either get a real one and remove the brain or find one you plug in at night to charge. <br /><br />A woman is not a door mat and passivity is not a beautiful principle. A truly blessed wife and beautiful woman is one who knows when to be passive and when to use their passion. When to uphold a principle and when to compromise.<br />If women were really made to be passive and submissive, why did God give them such deeply rooted emotions which take a great deal to control?<br />If you want a passive wife - check the argos catalogue - women like that just don't exist and in the end will bore you to tears.readernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-2749904079490518232012-02-03T06:38:59.233+00:002012-02-03T06:38:59.233+00:00Naturally my quibble is with Mr. Makow. However, S...Naturally my quibble is with Mr. Makow. However, SoulSeeker you should realize re-posting this was in poor taste too. Parts of it are really quite inflammatory to fundamental Islamic principals. But I guess one can overlook that if we just focus on the overarching message, which I don't find agreeable regardless. Really, quite frivolous but whatever I guess to each his own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-89253924218460083212012-01-29T23:13:03.133+00:002012-01-29T23:13:03.133+00:00Very sweet Mash Allah!
Admin to Habibi Matrimon...Very sweet Mash Allah! <br /><br /><br />Admin to Habibi Matrimonials<br />http://www.habibimatrimonials.comHabibi Matrimonialshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03260766439471089880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-2538644887966645722012-01-23T14:53:41.122+00:002012-01-23T14:53:41.122+00:00SI - You just wanted an excuse to tell me off. The...SI - You just wanted an excuse to tell me off. The voice of reason. Where's the like button? Apt ;) post. <br /><br />As with all information in this dunya, we take that which is beneficial and we disregard the irrelevant stuff.<br /><br />And of course posting an article != agreement with every word.<br /><br />Bait, this is Jasmine. Jasmine, this is bait.SoulSeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17159283661469135108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-33483045442991521192012-01-23T14:42:08.864+00:002012-01-23T14:42:08.864+00:00Oh and if a man wants me to work to help support h...Oh and if a man wants me to work to help support him, then he should contribute to household chores as well. Fair's fair. Two people working together towards a common goal.SInoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-53797829980008907812012-01-23T14:35:32.738+00:002012-01-23T14:35:32.738+00:00Lol at you both!
OK guys, chill. You're both ...Lol at you both!<br /><br />OK guys, chill. You're both right in your own ways. The thing is that this is just a power trip for most guys and girls these days. <br /><br />Feminism has become an excuse for lazy men to shirk their responsibilities and as women we start demanding all sorts for independence. I am an independent woman. I have been for many years. I have my own assets, my own money and don't rely on anyone else. I work when I want, how I want. Do what I want, whenever I want. Does it make me happy? Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn’t. I'm actually very successful and if not more qualified than most guys these days (well the ones I'm meeting anyway). Would I still give up my career for a family/home life? I actually would. You cannot disregard the biological make up of a woman or a man.<br /><br />It's all about choices and opinion. Let's face it - a lot of useless men and women demand things. Things which are unimportant which is leading to the disintegration of family life. <br />There’s nothing wrong with being a homemaker – does this mean a woman has to do it on its own? No, there’s a lot of things she can do on the side as long as her household duties are not neglected. She can also work if she wants but it’s a decision both partners make together. <br /><br />I’ll think you find that the best marriages/relationships are where there is co-dependence e.g. both man and woman work together to build a family life and make decisions together.<br /><br />Men should take the lead and be responsible for taking the lead in most things. This does not diminish the role or responsibility of a woman. She’s not passive – she just understands her role as a wife and a mother as does a man as her husband and a father. <br /><br />As for a healthy discussion, you both need to realise that emotions should not get in the way of a debate. Especially a debate which is not worth having. <br /><br />Jas – you should know better than to fall for that one :)<br /><br />SS – Cheek trying to rile up women :)<br /><br />Why have you both taken the homosexuality out of context which is irrelevant in my opinion. Nothing to do with the overall big picture. Read the article carefully. There's a lot of irrelevant information but read between the lines and you will find the basis of an islamic marriage. What does traditional mean anyway? It means different things to different people....<br /><br />PS Jasmine - I love conspiracy theories especially illumanti!! <br /><br />And a final one for the ladies – YES a man is the HEAD responsible for his family/household but the woman is the neck controlling him ;)<br /><br />Damn I should be working right now :)SInoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-4417756921588583562012-01-23T12:38:01.511+00:002012-01-23T12:38:01.511+00:00Jasmine,
Who was the behind all the fun and games...Jasmine,<br /><br />Who was the behind all the fun and games? It was Lut's wife of course. They were vile human beings, regardless of their sex. I fail to see the point you're trying to raise.<br /><br />You just have to look into the roots of feminism and understand understand not only how but more importantly why it came about. Of course in a capitalist ideology where man is left to dictate the laws and legislation that will always change according to the status quo. It's only natural for movements as such to spring forth.<br /><br />As you perfectly suggested yourself, lets look at the true women of Islam to understand that only under Islam were women truly liberated. I'm not talking about this cultural nonsense that clearly is not from Islam. If you agree, why not focus your energy and support something that is of real value.<br /><br />Here's the problem with the la feminia brigade. The premise of any fruitful discussion is destroyed before it begins. You just blasted out some irrelevant retort, even had to make it personal.<br /><br />A great example of emotions being riled over matter. I posted an article with no opinion. Quick off the mark to start questioning my ideals as a Muslim. Way to go Jasmine.<br /><br />I think the whole keyboard warrior rage ties in well with feminism from my experiences.<br /><br />I know you meant well, Insha'Allah.SoulSeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17159283661469135108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-88828190702811914622012-01-23T11:00:37.692+00:002012-01-23T11:00:37.692+00:00Henry Macow. Oh dear SS, quoting a 63 year old con...Henry Macow. Oh dear SS, quoting a 63 year old consipiracy theorist whilst knowing full well that he writes fiction for profit. <br /><br />The man woman stuff is potentially the biggest load of rubbish I have ever read in my life. <br /><br />The feminism / homosexuality stuff is just plain wrong - the people of Lut were gay before women were even allowed to walk outside, and the Ancient Greeks had gay relationships because they felt women didn't have the brains to connect intellectually and so love could not occur. <br /><br />On the topic of feminism - feminism is a vehicle by which women gain rights and freedoms. I don't want to tie myself to a tree to prevent it being cut down, but if eco-activitists didn't tie themselves to trees in protest we'd probably have no oxygen / rainforest left. Same with feminists: they fight for our (women's) rights and I am happy that they do - and they have to be extreme and I support them. I am grateful for the fact I can vote, work and look after myself - and that is all thanks to feminists. <br /><br />On the whole passive / aggressive thing - that's just poor, uninformed pop psychology on a majorly ignorant level which would not stand up to any scrutiny whatsoever, and as a Muslim you really should know better. One of the greatest stories of Islam is Mohammed and Khadijah - you know, the powerful business woman? And Aysha who led a war, and established a school without her husband who has passed away years before and never married again? <br /><br />As for the "illuminati / police state" hogwash - paranoia sells. It's just another way of selling books. Which, by the way - if you are really into - best to go straight to the good stuff with David Ike.Jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15840296267007752569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-34727965069377607002012-01-23T09:40:02.016+00:002012-01-23T09:40:02.016+00:00@striving muslimah
Respect works both ways - you ...@striving muslimah<br /><br />Respect works both ways - you get what you give.SInoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-49761906139749792542012-01-23T09:38:43.391+00:002012-01-23T09:38:43.391+00:00Agree with a lot of it and equality in a marriage ...Agree with a lot of it and equality in a marriage is important. Two people working together to achieve a common goal = a happy marriage. <br /><br />Feminist crap - never believed in it anyway.SInoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-65060463855726107972012-01-23T01:27:57.887+00:002012-01-23T01:27:57.887+00:00It is funny. When looking for a husband, I do loo...It is funny. When looking for a husband, I do look for someone with similar characteristics as my dad. MashaAllah my dad is an amazing person. I know if I can marry someone as half as good as him, I would be pretty happy. He had all the characteristics that this article talks about. I know if i can trust a man's values, he will have my respect and I will be able to let him take control. But it is so hard to find men who are like that.Muslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02475578426901051318noreply@blogger.com