tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post1461336885684261829..comments2023-12-22T08:38:20.596+00:00Comments on Marriage & Islam: The Search Is On . .: The one experience to change them all, Aisha - Part 1SoulSeekhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17159283661469135108noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-70797223433952630372010-06-26T04:29:53.879+01:002010-06-26T04:29:53.879+01:00we haz been waiting for part2!
and btw, great blog...we haz been waiting for part2!<br />and btw, great blog you got here, I've been a regular silent reader for a while nowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-76828431630271172462010-06-24T02:48:03.077+01:002010-06-24T02:48:03.077+01:00oh, and by the way, one of my friends and i starte...oh, and by the way, one of my friends and i started a blog recently too. you can find it by clicking on my profile name. it's not about marriage as of now, but maybe soon?....lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-5923251777084810242010-06-24T02:39:51.839+01:002010-06-24T02:39:51.839+01:00salam,
very interesting bro. yeah, i think i agr...salam,<br /><br />very interesting bro. yeah, i think i agree with the other commentators in general that maybe you can look past her past relationships. Like, a person could change completely, and you write that you were kind of hesitant, because you wanted someone who has never been with anyone else and that kind of thing. I guess that's natural, but if she wants to change herself and move on, than i think it would be good if you gave her another chance. <br />I was actually thinking about the same issue, like i wanted to ask girls if they had ever been with anyone else and that kind of thing. but one of my friends told me that if allah is going to cover up a person's bad deeds and forgive them, than who are we to uncover them again, and so its not advised to ask about someone's past if they are sincerely trying to put it behind. <br />i was thinking, that it would be reasonable to ask someone to never contact or talk to someone they had been in a past relationship with, though, since in that case, you arent asking questions about the past, but about the future. anyway, good luck and good sailing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-74835706839791169442010-06-24T01:43:20.129+01:002010-06-24T01:43:20.129+01:00SubahanAllah, very complicated situations.I don...SubahanAllah, very complicated situations.I don't know what to say as like Aisha I am somewhat wary (afraid) of marriage,lol-Well its a female thing I suppose?-let her have more time,which I think you had by delaying it to after university.So you'd done your part and Istikhara(great one)too. <br /><br />I am glad you are keeping Allah(swt) on your side as no matter what, everything and everyone around us are ephemeral sources of Tranquility Peace and Happiness, because it is Allah who is the true Source of what are souls seek.hey your name soulseek! lol.<br /><br />People and things are there for us to be tested by Allah: how much do we realise the purpose of our existence in the first place-which is to worship Him Alone. InshAllah thinking this way can always put things in perspective and make the difficult easy.ahlamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-65956696407237605622010-06-19T16:51:31.825+01:002010-06-19T16:51:31.825+01:00a wonderful post....so much to learn....a wonderful post....so much to learn....Safahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03753208969449031396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-14331216897504556982010-06-19T03:13:05.551+01:002010-06-19T03:13:05.551+01:00Please Make Nation of Muhammad Very strong Put thi...Please Make Nation of Muhammad Very strong Put this logo in your blog.<br /><br />And please help me for make this Campaign Internationality in anther blog of Muslim.<br /><br />I am from Makkah and I don’t no English very well only Arabic. <br /><br />Thank you<br />God bless us<br /><br /> The Link:<br /><br /> http://krkr111.blogspot.com/2010/06/campaign-one-body.htmlالعلم نورhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17109611149315535158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-45111132498329120482010-06-15T03:37:54.744+01:002010-06-15T03:37:54.744+01:00Your experiences shape you into the person you are...Your experiences shape you into the person you are whether that is actually the death of a person or a past relationship. She may not have been the person who you like if it weren't for her past. Sometimes those little bumps that come in our life bring us closer to Allah...you never know...it might have been His way of calling her to Him. Look past the past relationships. Look past the past - your's and her's. Look into the future. May Allah bless you with whatever is best for you. Ameen. :)Hhttp://eulersconstant.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-61663597208489832052010-06-15T02:19:32.567+01:002010-06-15T02:19:32.567+01:00You said it yourself..."Experience is never a...You said it yourself..."Experience is never a waste". Whatever Aisha has been through in the past has made her the person she is today. And if you like and respect that person, then those past experiences probably have played their part in shaping her contemporary self.RedBerrieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01350622954339500856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-71608701313856092182010-06-14T11:19:06.014+01:002010-06-14T11:19:06.014+01:00@SoulSeek. Yup it is extremely difficult to bring ...@SoulSeek. Yup it is extremely difficult to bring yourself back into your 'normal' self, all happy and whole, would be easy if someone could just pick you up out of the pool of confusion, shake the residue off and place you on a smooth sunny track so you can walk down it with no weight on your shoulders. But from this experience, as you probably know, you will learn alot, about marriage, potential partners, your emaan and your ocnnection with Allah, as well as learning about yourself and what you want and what you are willing to do.<br /><br />And yup, sometimes you have your mind set like 'im not going to marry someone if they are like this' but when someone who has so many positive things about them but also that 1 thing you didnt want them to have, you will be willing to compromise. It's a hard situaiton because you never know if they are actually the one you are going to be with or if someone else will come along, only time will tell. Have sabr :) <br />and remember...compromises have to be made by both. Even if you may find it difficult to accept certain things about her, she may have to make difficult compromises for you too. Its only fair eh :)Effervescenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18440498288672532076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-32162952290629420982010-06-14T09:06:32.796+01:002010-06-14T09:06:32.796+01:00I'm a regular reader but I don't think I h...I'm a regular reader but I don't think I have ever commented... I just wanted to agree with the other people ^^^ that looking beyond her past relationship would be a good thing. As you said, experience is never a waste and I'm sure it helped made her who she is today, a good Muslima inshaAllah. Whenever you feel confused, just remember too that Allah has already decided on the woman you will marry - He knows what will happen in your future :)ellen557https://www.blogger.com/profile/15241966768415648407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-64287939271516928912010-06-14T01:31:26.050+01:002010-06-14T01:31:26.050+01:00i feel like im aisha. i had been in a past relatio...i feel like im aisha. i had been in a past relationship. and i could have wrote what aisha wrote about losing someone so close to me. that you would think someone died. mind you, i thought of suicide. i felt like my whole world fell apart. during that time, i started praying qiyam al layl. i wasnt even praying the 5 prayers, only qiyam. because my friend told me the same thing that aisha's friend told her. i started going to jumuah. but the heart werent there. i still continued my old ways. i really went wild. cut my hair really short, started dressing a lot more revealing. i didnt want the old me. i wanted to rebel. alhamdoulilah at that time, Allah guided me Alhamdoulilah. and i always ask for his forgiveness. if Allah can forgive, why cant we human beings forgive? as long as aisha changed, it doesnt matter if she was in a past relationship or not. dont let this bother you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-57866818718581801752010-06-13T23:48:26.454+01:002010-06-13T23:48:26.454+01:00Jazakallah Khair for your post. Yeah, part 2 is du...Jazakallah Khair for your post. Yeah, part 2 is due soon. I can go on but just reading what I've wrote is quite poor to be honest and it's really unstructured. I think that's enough for today.<br /><br />I completely agree with you. Do you know what the ironic thing is? I have answers and lots of them. I suppose its trying to find myself again from this situation. <br /><br />I completely agree. Allah is certainly the best of planners and judges. I now realise how much I'm willing to compromise for someone that is worth it. And finding someone similar to myself is unrealistic.SoulSeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17159283661469135108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6150686658810344054.post-27655734148387816002010-06-13T22:39:12.271+01:002010-06-13T22:39:12.271+01:00Wow.
Well I really do not know what to say. Dude...Wow. <br /><br />Well I really do not know what to say. Dude you have been through ALOT in with this girl, not just the meetings and talking but emotionally. And I can relate to many things you mentioned and I know how darn confusing it can be! Nothing is ever easy though. And especially when the feelings are there but things are not looking up, and you sometimes want it to work cos of the feelings you have and the person they are but then you think maybe it's not meant to be, it's hard to know when to stop and even harder to detatch yourself. <br /><br />I'm guessing another post is due on Aisha and her feelings for you?<br /><br />Till then, I hope your getting through things well, and all your blogger fans will be your support if you need any. Ofcourse Allah is the best of Planners and the best of Helpers, and His guidance is the best guidance so keep doing what your doing and have faith in Him.<br /><br />Take care. P.s. even if someone has had a past relationship and they have changed their ways, it shouldn't really make you chuck them out the scene, if Allah can overlook their disobedience to Him and forgive them, then who are we to judge them and hold their past against them?Effervescenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18440498288672532076noreply@blogger.com